Whose Fault Is It?

When was the last time you encountered, heard, came to know about someone who did morally wrong to the world and it’s people? Or hurt someone? Passed hurtful comments? It filled you to the brim with outrage, how can someone be so wicked? But is it really their fault?

The bad in the world brings out variety of emotions in us; anger, rage, pity, sadness, etc. Also, it brings a question in light, why are these people so evil? They could have chosen a different way, right? Why are they burying themselves in the deep pit of darkness? The questions are never answered but the image of those wicked people prevails in our mind.

There’s a common saying which goes as: Everything Happens For A Reason, sure, there is a lesson or two, the whole plot to save us from the bad, to serve the greater purpose and sometimes, to reach the best that ever can be. Don’t you think that whatever a person has done or has become, there was a reason behind that, too? No one is born bad or good, right?

There was a story that I read a long time ago in a children’s magazine (I was a child myself back then. ‘kay fine I was a teenager. Late teenager. But in my defense, that story is now part of great content xP). So, the story goes as, a student was been punished for not completing his homework. He was made to stand out for rest of the lecture. When the Principal came on a round and saw him, he immediately inquired about the whole matter.

The Principal then told the teacher that this isn’t the right way to deal with learning children. They need to be in the class; guided, advised, directed and enlightened about the right and wrong in the life. There were many people in history who were thrown out of the class because they did wrong or they seem to be doing wrong. Those people went on to the path of misguided life and deeds. Imagine, what could have happened had they been in the class rather than out of it?

True isn’t it? Lack of proper guidance and the understanding of moral values play a vital role in developing one’s perception about life. Though, this is just one factor which induces the way of life a person chooses. Many other factors, which include discrimination, bullying, lack of education, poverty, also forces a person to choose the darker and dangerous path. 

Oh no, no, no I am not defending their choices that they made. Obviously, what they did was not right. They had the choice to go either way. But what happened to them, the bad that they had to go through, was that right? Don’t you think that if there was less of negligence and bad; more of open-mindedness, guidance for them, wouldn’t they have chosen a better journey to embark on? There must have been a certain incident, saturation of tolerance that made them the way they are. If they are at fault, then aren’t, somewhere, we too are at fault?

Didn’t the bad in world eclipse their good?

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P.S. – I know it is out of sync but stay tune for the post that comes out in an hour about an important update that I would like to share with you all. I am so excited!

The Grand Day!

It is happening finalllyyyy!!! The day has come!!! I have been so excited for this since so long!!!

(After getting done with all the shouting, jumping, laughing, flying and then falling from the sofa, I am back to continue xD). By the way, was the beginning dramatic enough to mark the grand day? xP

How I missed that emoji! How I missed notifications of comments and likes! How I missed reading the amazing work by fellow bloggers! How I missed writing posts! How I missed YOU! (Yes, you right here reading this! I missed you!)

Yes! Thank you for the love and support you have been bestowing on me since day 1. I am so, so grateful to you. *Blessed*

I can never ever describe in words how much you all mean to me. If my blog is getting noticed, it is because of you people.

Coming back to the changes, I have been working so hard for days to draw doodles for each post *sniffs* *sniffs*. Since, it is a magazine style, based on the images theme, I had to make doodles. Also, I have always been concerned about the copyright thing, so I thought, “Why not just make my own images rather than searching them on Google.”

I enjoyed the waiting period in which I made doodles, reviewed all the old posts, correcting the mistakes, deciding when to post, the ideas, re-writing the About page and what not? You know, what was the most important thing that I felt all this while? For which I have been most excited? That finally I will be providing you quality content with all my honest efforts sparkles and glitters in it.

Let’s talk about all the decisions that I have taken, shall we? (We need to be on same page, you see.)

1. My posts will be bombarding your Reader’s feed and/or mail box every Sunday and Wednesday. Yes, I am aiming for bi-weekly publishing. Don’t ask why these two specific days, I just felt the combo sounds different and great!
2. Since, I will be publishing just twice a week, I have also decided that I will not be doing any of the awards and challenges, anymore. I really appreciate that you nominate me. But, the thing is that it will be like 8-10 posts a month, so, I felt that with so limited posts, I should restrict the blog to thoughts, poems, stories, rants and doodles. I am so sorry. I was nominated while on this preparatory period, even I too wanted to do them before going award free, but the thing is I lacked a lot of time. Working for blog and getting on with life does not go together. Had I have whole day in my hands just for the blog, I wouldn’t have chosen to go award free. I really am sorry, apologies. Henceforth, Eloraquence is an award free blog. Of course, except for the awards where stage, spotlight and a real award is there, then you can surely remember this brat. *cheesy smiles*
3. I had to take down some of the posts because I had published them for the sole reason that I am on a #postaday tag, so I have to publish. But, here’s the thing, those topics deserve better content. So, I will be re-publishing them with better, quality content.
4. From tomorrow, I will be reading your work, again! So, get ready, for your notifications will be flooded with my likes and comments. But, I will appreciate the great patience because I will be getting to each one of you one at a time. So, I might take some time to reach to your blog.
5. Also, if you have noticed, my tagline is changed, too. It is now Exploring and Inspiring.
6. Also, I have always been told that I lack images (Along with grammtical skills *sigh* I should have paid attention in school) on my blog and going by this post you can be sure that this wouldn’t be the case anymore. Doodles will be included in each post. Though, I still struggle with alignments.
7. The Doodle Diary will be more than just few images. Because doodles in each post and the category, where is the difference, bae? Something is cooking right here. 

Haha! Everything feels so new and fresh that I feel like I am newbie in the world of blogging, again (But with more experience and confidence). I will be honest I had the urge to revamp right now ever since I had the thought of it on my mind. Only God and I know how difficult it was for me to curb that urgency. But it has HAPPENED!!! (What am I going to do with my life now?)

Please, please do go through the re-written About page, scroll through the old posts (you will see doodles for each post), check out the widgets and then the Contact page and maybe leave a message on how you felt about the new look. xD

You do not have to read the posts, just go through the home page because it is now an image based home, so it will take less of your time to reach the end. I will really appreciate if you let me know about your thoughts. It would mean a lot to me. (Don’t be a brat by breaking my heart. It’s just few moments and I had done so much hard work to make this happen *puppy face*)

It feels great to be back, especially after making so many efforts to be more effective. And how did you feel? Did you miss me? Did you like the look? Or do you want to just thrash me in to a deep end of the pool with my laptop because I have done a pathetic work? (Do take into account; I don’t know how to swim.)

To the new beginning! *Raise the toast*

Social Evil: The Four People

There’s a phrase in India, a very common phrase, char log kya kahenge? (What will people say?) And yet no one knows who those people are.

These 4 words have destroyed many dreams. It has stopped a bud from blooming, a caterpillar from transiting and a seed from growing.

I came across an article by SUPERCALIFRAGILISTICEXPIALIDOCIOUS named The Mysterious Four. It is about same char log kya kahenge which she ends by asking who those four people are. I am going to answer her. Though, my answers may not be work of genius, still what’s the harm in trying?

Also, I feel that these four people are interrelated to each other. One is the result of other; the other is created by the third and so on. Without further delay…

Let’s get started, shall we?

• Society

The society, in which we grew up, has certain rules which the people living in it are expected to follow them. Otherwise how will those in power be in power anymore if the democracy prevails in nation? How will those upper class people be respected if the lower ones will not be treated as inferior? How will the patriarchal ego be soothed if the women will not be suppressed? How will the normal ones live if the LGBT will be accepted? How will be comfort enjoyed if someone takes risk? How will a particular profession will be respectable if others are given equal importance?

Yes, the society that we live in, we grew up in and the generations will continue to reside in is a social evil.

Oh, no, no, no, don’t get started with that it does not happen in urban areas, these rules are only followed in villages. No, my dear, even in those urban areas this still exists. If it was the case, then the newspaper headlines wouldn’t have been about the politician’s son, who drank and drove, killing 3 people just because he thought he is the son of esteemed dignity, so he can do anything.

• Thinking

These societal rules, as we know, are ages old. The rules were formulated and made by the ancestors who died ages ago, were reborn, died and again reborn and may be today, they are currently living their 255th birth and suffering for what they did in their 1st birth (karma, karma all the way). These rules have been in our society for so long that now they have became the integrated part of our beliefs and thinking. These rules are no longer any rules; they are now norms and a way of life that no one wants to change. Because duh! We should blindly follow what our elders say. And being a rebel is going to get wiper, slippers and rolling pin all over your face, hands and legs.

“Bol karega tu? Phir karega aise?”, “Aise kapde pehan kar jayegi tu bahar?”,”Tune doctor hi bana hai!” “Kitne bar bolna padega ladkio ke saath na ghuma kar”

English Translation: “Say, will you? Will you do this again?”, “Are you going out wearing this kind of clothes?”, “You have be doctor”, “How many times should I tell you to not to hang out with girls?”

Haven’t we all grown up listening to all this?

Though, times are changing and India is progressing, but still there are many places where it still exists. People are not ready to accept and embrace the change because they feel what they have been taught and their thinking is right.

 

 

• Discrimination

If the thinking is generations old, the result will be what was practiced in those times – discrimination. Discrimination on the basis of caste, creed, gender, age, sexuality, clothes, physical disability, profession, etc. is a social evil. In fact, I feel any differentiation (in a bad way) is being discriminating. The person who is discriminated, feels inferior, he loses his self-esteem and confidence in himself. Discrimination is a mental torture. A person knows how it feels, is the person who has gone through it. These age old discrimination are no longer relevant in today’s world. Progress in science and technology has demolished the reasons (health and hygiene) for the discrimination that might have been relevant in those times. But today, they are no longer relevant.

An open-minded and accepting perspective needs to be adopted for the complete extinction of discrimination.

• Fear

The last of those four people is fear. The society, the thinking and the discrimination has inculcated a deep fear in hearts of people. The fear of not being socially accepted, being an outcast. It is the fear because of which the people don’t want to accept the change. The fear that others are gonna badmouth about them, they will be ill-famed and they won’t be able to live in the society anymore.

This fear has made several of us to be congested in the four walls of the house.

The society with backward thinking; led to discrimination; which resulted in fear.

We need a change; a revolutionary change that will lead to a open-minded, free thinking and accepting society, where a being will not be stopped from pursuing his/her dreams in the fear of what people will say? A person will not be refrained from their basic rights, where he/she will live with dignity and respect, others will look at them with acceptance if not affection; the person will live with freedom, safety and honor. That’s when the nation and its people will truly gain autonomy.

And this change is going to begin from us. Accept and encourage that one should be allowed to do what they want to do, live the way they want and how they want as long as it does not harm anyone. Change, Accept and Encourage.

This Too Shall Pass

Because, yes, change is the only permanent thing in life, feelings, situations, people and places – everything changes. Then why do we hold on tightly to despair, when it’s yelling to you, “LET ME GO!!! I need to hassle someone else!” Don’t be a brat and let that feeling go.

Hola, people!

I first came across this line when I was reading a Akbar-Birbal story. (Yes, I still read those comics. What? What was that? I can’t read those because I am soon to be 20 and that kid sitting there is eligible to read them because he’s like 11. Don’t be a racist.) Akbar asked Birbal for a sentence or something which can make him feel sad in the moment of happiness and happy in the moment of sad. Birbal, being a witty prodigy, answered that, “This too shall pass.” I couldn’t agree more. Aren’t we just experiencing changes since we were brought in this huge universe?

We went from wailing, little brats to grumpy, giant adults who couldn’t get enough from that tiny little screen in the hand. (And there’s your mother asking for tenth time to get her butter and you’re there with a proud, smiling face down, looking at that screen, handing her the milk.) Anyways, changes are inevitable part of life. And honestly speaking, today a triumphant person is the one who embraces the changes rather than running away from them.

I know and I totally understand, you have fallen so much head over heels for the melancholy, that you feel you won’t be able to, ever, get along with jubilation. But, hey, didn’t you feel the same when you were sent to school against your will? Or the times when your friend betrayed you? Or when your pet left you? Or when you finished the tremendous book? The time you completed Game of Thrones’ entire season? You did get over it, didn’t you? So, why are you holding grudges for so long?

“Because this situation and Game of Thrones are not same!!!”

Trust me, my friend, they are same. You just exaggerated the former and haven’t come in terms with it, like you did with the latter. And believe when I say this, you waste 60 seconds of happiness in a minute’s sadness. Now, do the math for those days, months and years in which you could have happily eaten the sundae, jumped off a cliff, won the singing competition, discovered yourself, created healthy relationships. But, you chose to be in a dark, cold, congested nutshell of crummy experiences. Don’t you think, you have lost many precious moments living in that nutshell?

Instead of being bitter, you know what? You can break that shell, come out of it and create a world with explosions of happiness and moments full of positivity, because if you won’t try, this moment is not going to pass. (Again, don’t be a brat. Not a good thing!)

And you know what? I truly feel that all these hardships you’re facing right now, will either destroy you completely or will mould you in a way that you will be connected to your stronger, better, more confident self. Which way you go, is totally your choice to make. I would be the happiest to see you choosing the path of magical changes rather than a dark, scary forest. (Be a wise Little Red Riding Hood and choose the longer path.)

So, be happy in the moments of despair and happier in the moments of joy. Because “this too shall pass” applies both ways. (No, this is not science. This is life. Or maybe it is also science.)

P.S. – When you will take a hundred and eighty degrees turn, making your life upside down (in a positive way)  and you find candies falling from sky, rivers flowing with chocolates, houses made of cookies and mountains full of ice-creams, do send me some of them over, won’t you?