Social Evil: The Four People

There’s a phrase in India, a very common phrase, char log kya kahenge? (What will people say?) And yet no one knows who those people are.

These 4 words have destroyed many dreams. It has stopped a bud from blooming, a caterpillar from transiting and a seed from growing.

I came across an article by SUPERCALIFRAGILISTICEXPIALIDOCIOUS named The Mysterious Four. It is about same char log kya kahenge which she ends by asking who those four people are. I am going to answer her. Though, my answers may not be work of genius, still what’s the harm in trying?

Also, I feel that these four people are interrelated to each other. One is the result of other; the other is created by the third and so on. Without further delay…

Let’s get started, shall we?

• Society

The society, in which we grew up, has certain rules which the people living in it are expected to follow them. Otherwise how will those in power be in power anymore if the democracy prevails in nation? How will those upper class people be respected if the lower ones will not be treated as inferior? How will the patriarchal ego be soothed if the women will not be suppressed? How will the normal ones live if the LGBT will be accepted? How will be comfort enjoyed if someone takes risk? How will a particular profession will be respectable if others are given equal importance?

Yes, the society that we live in, we grew up in and the generations will continue to reside in is a social evil.

Oh, no, no, no, don’t get started with that it does not happen in urban areas, these rules are only followed in villages. No, my dear, even in those urban areas this still exists. If it was the case, then the newspaper headlines wouldn’t have been about the politician’s son, who drank and drove, killing 3 people just because he thought he is the son of esteemed dignity, so he can do anything.

• Thinking

These societal rules, as we know, are ages old. The rules were formulated and made by the ancestors who died ages ago, were reborn, died and again reborn and may be today, they are currently living their 255th birth and suffering for what they did in their 1st birth (karma, karma all the way). These rules have been in our society for so long that now they have became the integrated part of our beliefs and thinking. These rules are no longer any rules; they are now norms and a way of life that no one wants to change. Because duh! We should blindly follow what our elders say. And being a rebel is going to get wiper, slippers and rolling pin all over your face, hands and legs.

“Bol karega tu? Phir karega aise?”, “Aise kapde pehan kar jayegi tu bahar?”,”Tune doctor hi bana hai!” “Kitne bar bolna padega ladkio ke saath na ghuma kar”

English Translation: “Say, will you? Will you do this again?”, “Are you going out wearing this kind of clothes?”, “You have be doctor”, “How many times should I tell you to not to hang out with girls?”

Haven’t we all grown up listening to all this?

Though, times are changing and India is progressing, but still there are many places where it still exists. People are not ready to accept and embrace the change because they feel what they have been taught and their thinking is right.

 

 

• Discrimination

If the thinking is generations old, the result will be what was practiced in those times – discrimination. Discrimination on the basis of caste, creed, gender, age, sexuality, clothes, physical disability, profession, etc. is a social evil. In fact, I feel any differentiation (in a bad way) is being discriminating. The person who is discriminated, feels inferior, he loses his self-esteem and confidence in himself. Discrimination is a mental torture. A person knows how it feels, is the person who has gone through it. These age old discrimination are no longer relevant in today’s world. Progress in science and technology has demolished the reasons (health and hygiene) for the discrimination that might have been relevant in those times. But today, they are no longer relevant.

An open-minded and accepting perspective needs to be adopted for the complete extinction of discrimination.

• Fear

The last of those four people is fear. The society, the thinking and the discrimination has inculcated a deep fear in hearts of people. The fear of not being socially accepted, being an outcast. It is the fear because of which the people don’t want to accept the change. The fear that others are gonna badmouth about them, they will be ill-famed and they won’t be able to live in the society anymore.

This fear has made several of us to be congested in the four walls of the house.

The society with backward thinking; led to discrimination; which resulted in fear.

We need a change; a revolutionary change that will lead to a open-minded, free thinking and accepting society, where a being will not be stopped from pursuing his/her dreams in the fear of what people will say? A person will not be refrained from their basic rights, where he/she will live with dignity and respect, others will look at them with acceptance if not affection; the person will live with freedom, safety and honor. That’s when the nation and its people will truly gain autonomy.

And this change is going to begin from us. Accept and encourage that one should be allowed to do what they want to do, live the way they want and how they want as long as it does not harm anyone. Change, Accept and Encourage.

Never Let Anyone Tell You Otherwise

As much as we want to be best version of ourselves, there are times when we feel… umm despondent? Lack of spirits, zero motivation and, sometimes, we are just hopeless about something or other in life. But, whatever the case might be, never forget these things in life. No matter what others say, never let anyone, including yourself, tell you otherwise.

Hello, All!!

Today’s all about a reminder to you, what you might have forgotten about yourself. Or maybe you remember, so it is just a revision for you. Never Forget That:

• ‘Cause You’re Amazing Just The Way You’re

Girl, Boy, lady, gentleman… Whosoever is reading this let me tell you one thing. You are a beautiful, imperfectly perfect (because pfftt… being perfectly perfect is way too mainstream and a hallucination), amazing just the way you are. No matter how you carry yourself, as long as you are comfortable in your own skin, you are a beautiful being in this universe. Look yourself in the mirror right now, notice how charming and enchanting the God has made you. Also, this heading is in reference to the song Just The Way You Are by Bruno Mars.

• You Excel Like A Boss In What You Do

You know? Okay, if you do not know, let me break it down for you. You are the best at what you do. If there’s something you are really passionate about, broda, even if you know nothing about it now, learn and soon you will be the best in it. Supreme, excellent, outstanding; these are the words that define your work, nothing less. And if a brat tells you otherwise, rise above all and shut their mouth with your success. Because, duh, the fire in you can never be extinguish so easily.

•  Ain’t Need Anyone For Existence

Because, yes, you are a strong, independent, fiercely fearless warrior who knows how to survive on his/her own. Not only you can survive on your own, you can also, grow, rise and shine. You don’t need anyone to define you. You so have your own identity. Also, YOU are all you need. You don’t have to find someone to make your life happening, you have already got that person – You.

• Happiness is Your Birthright 

Do I really have to tell you this? Broda, you deserve happiness. Do Not Let Anyone Tell You That You Don’t. Because when you are happy, everything is so good. If any hurdle comes in your way, you can get through it, if you are truly, genuinely happy. Let me explain this with a work out. Imagine you are, umm, sad. You are all lost and walking like zombie. Suddenly, you find yourself in a pit of mud and crease because you were so lost to even notice it. Now, think, had you been happily riding a unicorn, would you have fallen in that pit? See? Be happy. It will save you from falling in to an open manhole.

• Settling For Less? Nahhh…

You deserve the best, nothing less. Why should you settle down for anything and everything, when you know, you deserve Brad Pitt, the dress from Forever 21, gadgets from Apple, dinner at 7 Star, a trip to Paris. Okay, okay don’t aim for Brad Pitt, that would be too irrational but don’t settle for less either. When you are priceless (refer to point 1), then why should you go for anything less? Keep your standards high, broda. 

P.S.- You can thank me for this reminder. I know, I have done a good work. *insert shamelessly narcissistic emoji*

P.P.S. – That word written in pink below in the image is Strong. Yep! I made that!

The Mask

Every morning when you wake up, putting on your best dress and heading out to get on with your life; do you go out with your true self? Or you put on a mask, showing the world what you are not?

The society we live in, the people we hang out with, the culture we grew up with, our surroundings and thousand other factors shaped us in way that made us what we are today. They mould us in a way that seems ‘fit’ and ‘appropriate’ from their perspective. Haven’t we brought up with never-ending dos and don’ts?

There are some of us who fight every day to stay true to themselves, while many of us get lost in the fulfilment of the demand of our environment. We hide our real selves behind the mask created by same demand and the desires, dreams and aspirations are murdered and buried deep in to our hearts. You may fit in the club, but you have already lost the star for the compulsion of fitting in the crowd of stones. You have lost your own shine to blend in the gloom of fake glory. You have lost the chance of standing out in an attempt to fit in. You have lost your ethics and morals for the joy and will of wicked devil in disguise. You have lost yourself to be like everyone else.

And in all this, you know what? You are deceiving not only others, but also yourself.

Let’s give some work out to that part of brain which apparently makes us forget the world by taking us far, far away in the land where fish flies, the trees talk, castles are built on the cloud and you own the place like a boss. Imagine that you are a prince/ princess (choose the role that suits you best). You aren’t allowed to be anything but only a prince/princess. You can’t go out and play, do your hobbies, run around or even be with the friend who lives down the street, in an alley that anyone can miss. All you’re allowed to do is be dressed heavy and full, keep your manners upright and behave in a royal style. Will you be happy?

See, even all the diamonds and luxury can’t make you happy when you’re forced to wear a mask and aren’t allowed to be yourself. So, why sacrifice your individuality and uniqueness when they are far better than being like everyone else. The mask you wear is going to take away your identity and, my dear friend, that is one terrible lose.

Do not apologies to anyone for being who you are. Because you are unique and a limited edition that even, God is proud to create. Don’t disappoint Him by being someone you’re not. You are a human being with your own individuality and own identity. Do not lose that identity for living an unhappy, imitated life and aimless existence. Instead, carry your true self, be original self and lead a happy and happening life.

Now, do yourself a favour. Throw away that mask right now, bring out the true you and show off to the world the priceless possession you’re. A wise person has said, “Don’t try to fit in, when you’re destined to stand out.”

P.S. – Finally, I’ve broken the promise (on my way to get my name in Guinness World Record) that I had made to myself in the beginning of this month. That was, I’m going to post every day this month. And I didn’t post yesterday. Hold on, broda! I couldn’t post yesterday as I had guests over my house and I was so engrossed in the conversation and other fun that I hardly had time to switch on the laptop and write a post. “I am so terrible blogger”, says in the most pathetic sympathetic voice ever.

I am so sorry, I broke your heart, please forgive me *starts howling like a month old baby*. You missed me, right? No? ‘kay. Bye. *again starts crying like a baby* I am never talking to you again. Just kidding! Please don’t go away. I like that notification which says “new comment, new like”. I will get you chocolate, but please, don’t take that notification away from me. Pinkie Promise.*snorts with laughter*

 

Roast Yourself

Those who watch videos on YouTube or follow any YouTuber, might have come across this recent challenge – Roast Yourself created by Ryan Higa. Some of you might already know that I am huge Superwoman fan, (Those who don’t know her, Google about her right now, watch her videos and then lament about why you didn’t know her earlier, in the same way I did), few days back I saw her video based on the same challenge and I absolutely loved it. So, the idea behind this challenge, in the words of Ryan Higa, is to think of yourself as another person and do exactly what the title says – Roast Yourself.

The message behind this challenge is that, it is very easy to judge anyone else. We all do it, don’t we? Whenever we meet, oh! forget meet, whenever we even see someone walking us by, we have this judgmental side of our brain formulating various presumptions based on how they look, how they have dressed, how they carry themselves, how they walk, etc. And some of us even have the audacity to let them know about your ‘Oh! So much awaited opinions’.  We don’t even think for a second that how much damage that ‘opinion’ might have caused to the self-esteem and emotions of that person.

Amidst all this, we forget that even we are as much flawed as anyone else. No one’s perfect. The only thing that is perfect is the chocolate cake show cased in the bakery, which my taste buds are longing to dive up on. And since you’re not a chocolate cake, you aren’t perfect either. When you will truly dwell up on it, introspecting about yourself; you will find that even you are having couple of flaws residing in you (and also they are not even paying you rent).

And when you judge yourself before judging anyone else, you stop yourself from hurting someone’s feelings. Also, when did making fun of oneself hurt anyone else? Don’t you think, it is much better than making fun of someone who is already battling a fight that no one else is aware of? Let’s take a moment to bring a smile on their face and make a slight positive difference in their life.

I always turn upset whenever someone makes fun of me. After coming across this challenge, I have decided to do it myself and get over with ‘She said that to me. Why am I so flawed?’ Instead, from this moment, I am going to embrace my flaws and be a better person. Also, love myself a little more. So, here it is, I roasting myself.

Hello, everyone!

It’s your Phoenix girl

That skinny soon to be 20

But looks like someone

In her early teens

There is a hothead devil

That inhabits in her

Beware, she eats people

I write like I am 

A descendant of Shakespeare

Most of the heavy words

Are the results of Google Uncle

When you will meet me 

You will realize that

I ain’t social butterfly

 I don’t talk half of what 

I say online

My humor is something

That will make your

Ticklish bone to run for his life

Still, I keep giving it a try

Whenever I try make up

And Girly things

I get offers of horror

Movies from film city

My eyes are watery for

Minimum thrice in a week

Because I always 

Cry like a baby

By now, you might have

Realized

I ain’t blessed with

Sense of Rhymes

As this is a challenge, I will be calling out for my fellow bloggers to do this challenge as well. Just kidding! I am not going to load your plate of high priorities anymore that need your already stressed out attention. But if you do want do it and spread the message, dude, just come aboard right now. We will make the world a little better place together. Let’s get roasted!

P.S. – Before you come aboard, do get me that chocolate cake with strawberry shake and butterscotch ice-cream.

Just Keep Learning!

Finding Dory is releasing tomorrow and I can’t wait for it!! Although, I am yet to convince my mother for letting me go for the movie. (Because answering to you are soon to be 20, behave like an adult now. That movie is for kids below the age of 10 is not easy.)  I gave the title Just Keep Learning so as to share with you all the excitement that Finding Dory is finally releasing!!!

Learning is a way of life. The person, who keeps learning, is the most successful person you will ever know. Most of the doing-well-in-life people, whom I know (not that fancy celebrities, but the real life people whom we came across.), kept learning, experimenting with different hobbies every now and then and today, they have discovered various talents. (Yep! My friends are way more talented than yours *insert tongue out teasing emoji*)

There’s a saying, if you won’t try, how will you know that you can do it.

Of course, there are things that you have particular interest in, but there also different things that you never paid heed to. But what if you came to know that you are an amazing surfer? Or that you can hike faster than others? Or that you can actually maintain the garden? Or you can play guitar better than the one performing on stage? What if you can speak like a great orator? That you can perform like a pro magician? Or you are blessed with the abilities of amusing stand-up comedian?

There are hundreds and thousands of possibilities out there waiting for you to explore. Exploring the possibilities opens the gate for discovering your amazingly talented, confident, strong self. And wouldn’t that be awe-inspiring? Obviously, you cannot try each and every thing that comes across your path. But, you can surely give some of them a go. Who knows, people might see a great personality, getting out of a limo, with limelight struck on him, thousands of people screaming for autograph while jumping on each other to get a glimpse and those sound and flashlight of *click* *click* *click*. Believe me when I say this, you can be that person. 

The only hurdle between you and that limousine, your comfort zone; that sweet poison comfort zone giving you all the content in life and freedom from hardship, while also stopping you from getting into that limousine. I know, I know all about your thoughts on this. You would rather stay in that comfort zone with your pajamas on, bowl of popcorn and watching that glorious scene on television than actually being in it. You nasty, little, coach-potato brat!! You’re already breaking hearts of your future fans.

Okay! Okay! Stop screaming at me, I get it. Getting out of the comfort zone means to jump into the large pit of embarrassment, shame and judgment of making a fool of yourself in front of the whole Goddamn world. Am I allowed to say something on it? Stop over thinking you full-of-excuses brat. Do you think that those people out there roaming in their brand new Audi didn’t face all of this? You know what? You should first read the not-so-highlighted-hidden-in-the-ground failure stories behind those glorious sequins and feathers. You will know that even those living in plush bungalows had to get out of their comfort zone, took all the dirt on their face and then reached where they are today.

So, jump out of your comfort zone, keep learning new things and unearth the popular, riding in a limo, in pajamas and with bowl of popcorn you.

P.S. – If you can convince my mother for letting me go for the Finding Dory that would be super great.

A Better Tomorrow

I am a highly optimistic person. And I solemnly believe that, one day, our world is going to take a revolutionary change, a change that will turn our beautiful, yet suffering, planet into a happy world of people with golden heart and pure soul.

Isn’t our planet Earth beautiful? The mesmerizing flora, amazing, friendly creatures, the gigantic waterfalls, the huge ocean – just look around and see, there’s so much our mother nature has given us. Aren’t we blessed? But what have we given back to our planet?

A deteriorating health, a hell for her other children, deaf ears and blind eyes to the screams of those in need, souls burning in the fire of greed, creatures beseeching for the lives of their children, blood tears of the broken hearts, empty stomachs, naked bodies and wounded souls. Isn’t it true?

Sure, if there are thousands out there harming our ambience, there are also people in millions, who are working day and night to protect us and our surroundings. You can see them in an environmental activist who has walked miles to aware the people, in a soldier who hasn’t met his family since months, in a cop who is staying up late only to ensure our safety, in our leaders who have no social life, in a writer who forgets to eat only to create a book which inspires, in a friend who takes your stand, in your family who will protect you even if it means to fight the world. Yes, there are people out there working with their all power and strength to make the world a better place.

If I have to name few, I would name one person that has influenced me the most – Malala Yousafzai. A female activist, youngest Nobel Prize winner who works for the education rights of girls. At the age of 15, she was shot by a gunman just because she was going to school. She fought back (which led to the ratification of Pakistan’s first Right to Education Bill) and today she’s one of the youngest and most influential people on this planet.

But, don’t you think? There’s still, a little more requirement of efforts from each and every one of us. After all, together and united we stand, divided we fall.

You might have heard or read this quote – “We do not inherit the Earth from our ancestors; we borrow it from our children.” Don’t you think we should pay back our children a heaven’s Earth in not just ecological terms, but also, in terms of healthy relationships, positive vibes, happiness and a discrimination free mindset and impartial, righteous, pure thinking? Isn’t this transformation much needed?

Let’s create a world that our children and children’s children would be proud of, that will make them shout from the core of their heart, “Our ancestors were great. They left us the legacy that no other materialistic thing can be its match.” Don’t you think that this would be far better than, “We wish our ancestors were wiser, we wouldn’t have been suffering then.”

Let’s take a pledge and give it away as a message to our fellow beings and as a legacy to our children – “To keep the planet Earth with utmost love and care, to create a healthy environment of positive vibes and thriving nature, to make a happy world of beautiful souls with golden heart, to create a better tomorrow.”

P.S. – I use the word creatures for not just us human beings, but also for the other creations of our Almighty. Dove, tigers, eagles, butterflies, ants, elephants, trees – everyone and everything who/which has been created by God is a creature. And the reason behind this is that, we may differ in shapes, size, color (and all the other scientific categories – mammals, amphibians, reptiles, etc. No, I am not a science student.), but we are created by the same hands. We are born from the same soil and, yes, we die in the same soil.

This Too Shall Pass

Because, yes, change is the only permanent thing in life, feelings, situations, people and places – everything changes. Then why do we hold on tightly to despair, when it’s yelling to you, “LET ME GO!!! I need to hassle someone else!” Don’t be a brat and let that feeling go.

Hola, people!

I first came across this line when I was reading a Akbar-Birbal story. (Yes, I still read those comics. What? What was that? I can’t read those because I am soon to be 20 and that kid sitting there is eligible to read them because he’s like 11. Don’t be a racist.) Akbar asked Birbal for a sentence or something which can make him feel sad in the moment of happiness and happy in the moment of sad. Birbal, being a witty prodigy, answered that, “This too shall pass.” I couldn’t agree more. Aren’t we just experiencing changes since we were brought in this huge universe?

We went from wailing, little brats to grumpy, giant adults who couldn’t get enough from that tiny little screen in the hand. (And there’s your mother asking for tenth time to get her butter and you’re there with a proud, smiling face down, looking at that screen, handing her the milk.) Anyways, changes are inevitable part of life. And honestly speaking, today a triumphant person is the one who embraces the changes rather than running away from them.

I know and I totally understand, you have fallen so much head over heels for the melancholy, that you feel you won’t be able to, ever, get along with jubilation. But, hey, didn’t you feel the same when you were sent to school against your will? Or the times when your friend betrayed you? Or when your pet left you? Or when you finished the tremendous book? The time you completed Game of Thrones’ entire season? You did get over it, didn’t you? So, why are you holding grudges for so long?

“Because this situation and Game of Thrones are not same!!!”

Trust me, my friend, they are same. You just exaggerated the former and haven’t come in terms with it, like you did with the latter. And believe when I say this, you waste 60 seconds of happiness in a minute’s sadness. Now, do the math for those days, months and years in which you could have happily eaten the sundae, jumped off a cliff, won the singing competition, discovered yourself, created healthy relationships. But, you chose to be in a dark, cold, congested nutshell of crummy experiences. Don’t you think, you have lost many precious moments living in that nutshell?

Instead of being bitter, you know what? You can break that shell, come out of it and create a world with explosions of happiness and moments full of positivity, because if you won’t try, this moment is not going to pass. (Again, don’t be a brat. Not a good thing!)

And you know what? I truly feel that all these hardships you’re facing right now, will either destroy you completely or will mould you in a way that you will be connected to your stronger, better, more confident self. Which way you go, is totally your choice to make. I would be the happiest to see you choosing the path of magical changes rather than a dark, scary forest. (Be a wise Little Red Riding Hood and choose the longer path.)

So, be happy in the moments of despair and happier in the moments of joy. Because “this too shall pass” applies both ways. (No, this is not science. This is life. Or maybe it is also science.)

P.S. – When you will take a hundred and eighty degrees turn, making your life upside down (in a positive way)  and you find candies falling from sky, rivers flowing with chocolates, houses made of cookies and mountains full of ice-creams, do send me some of them over, won’t you?

Now Is Your Chance

Hold on, please stop what you’re doing and imagine what I am saying. Let’s fast forward your life 20 years ahead. You’re sitting on a chair in your garden with a cup of tea, alone with your thoughts. Reflecting upon your past, your mind plays a flashback, a flashback of the events happened since you were born till now. Did that make you happy? Or a feeling of regret submerged in you?

Isn’t life full of chances? There are so many opportunities, adventures, moments and possibilities. Those opportunity full times give you the chance to get out of your comfort zone, conquer your deepest fears and ultimately achieve your greater-self.

Now the question arises, if life is so full of opportunities then why some of us experience regret when we look back on life? Just ask yourself these questions. When was the last time an opportunity crossed your path? Did you take it? Or just let it go? If you took it, then good for you, but letting an opportunity go is the reason for that regret. I agree, I totally agree that yes, there were a lot of reasons that you had to let go of that opportunity. Fear, personal matter, low confidence, zero experience, professional reasons, skepticism, doubt, distrust and million other reasons.

But let me tell you one thing, if you have thousand reasons to let go of an opportunity, hold on to that one reason to take that opportunity. Because you know what, taking an opportunity will give two results – either a memorable moment or a lesson for life. But trust me, both of them will help you understand yourself better, grow tremendously and help you achieve your dreams and aims. And let’s not forget, the first thing an organisation looks for in a potential candidate is “experience”. God! That never-ending cycle of “I need a job for experience, I need experience for job.” Taking that opportunity is going to get you a job because opportunity brings experience along with millions of other good things in its Santa bag.

So, what is stopping you from taking that opportunity? It helps you grow, gather experience, gets you job, moments to cherish and also it makes for great stories. Don’t you want to be a nice granny/grandpa who has great stories from past to narrate to their grandchildren. And don’t you think “My grandparents were a gangster in their days” is super dope? TAKE THAT OPPORTUNITY FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR GRANDCHILDREN. (Okay, my humor isn’t humorous at all).

Anyways, you got my point right? Taking opportunity is, in every sense, beneficial for you. That benefit is going to serve to you in long run. Also, it saves you from the regret of “I should have given it a go”.

It is said that moments before a person abodes his final destination, he has a flashback of his life in front of his eyes. Make that flashback worth watching so that it brings an emotional rush of immense satisfaction.

Be Brave

 It takes a lot of guts and courage, strong will power to be brave. In fact, I believe, there’s only one quality that a human being needs to survive, grow and prosper in this universe – Bravery.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about the inspiring personalities, beautiful souls and genuine persons those whom I’ve ever met. How they have grown all these years, their journey, their achievements and accomplishments.

Dwelling upon the tales of those shining stars, I thought, “How did they do that? Accomplished so much in such short span of time… Does it require any special traits to achieve? Talent? Extraordinary? Confident? Strong? Were they born with it? Or did experiences taught them?”

After mulling over this topic for hours, I concluded that it takes only one quality to grow bigger and better in life – Bravery. Those people were brave enough to begin their journey and achieve.

There are so many aspirations and desires we all have. There are stuffs that we always wanted to do but never did. Dreams and aims that we have and want so badly. But they are buried deep inside our heart. Yelling and shouting to come out. A barrier always holds you back, keeping you from opening your heart and living your dream. The barrier stops you every time you take a step forward. The barrier – fear of failing, fear of making a mistake, fear of falling down and never getting up. The barrier is created by society, family, friends and even you.

The fear not only hurdles our path of dreams and aspirations, but also the fear act as an obstacle in so many other aspects of life. Every day the fear stops us from attaining our greater selves. The more we let the fear engulf us, the deeper hope, ambitions and dreams are buried. I have been fighting this fear for years from now. There are so many dreams that yearn to be reality. To be honest, I am the only one who created this barrier. This fight is more like – Anjali vs Anjali. Even when I started this blog, I had this fear, “Will my blog even get noticed? What if I am not a good enough writer?” This fear delayed my first post by a year. I am so glad I overcame that fear and started writing. The encouragement by my beloved ones gave me power to take up pen and paper and write.

That fear was conquered by one weapon – Bravery. All you have to do is – believe in yourself and your abilities. Be strong and let that bravery fill each and every part of you. So much so that there’s no place left for the fear. You know why, because you are blessed with so much abilities and powers, that are not yet discovered, to conquer the world. You have everything that is needed to be bigger, better and soon the best in life because you can and you will. The day you realize your caliber, be courageous enough to get up and start off, is the day you are a step closer to your destination.

So, be brave because you can live your dreams. Be brave because you can express your feelings. Be brave because YES! YOU ARE DESTINED TO BE BIG. Be brave because you are allowed to make mistakes. Be brave because you are a great orator. Be brave because you can start the venture and make it huge. Be brave because you can create a melody that can mesmerize anyone. Be brave because you can bring out the emotions on canvas. Be brave because you’re an amazing dancer. Be brave because you can go on a solo trip abroad. Be brave because you can bring a change.

Be brave because you are BRAVE.

Yes! I’ve made mistakes

Mistake – an unintentional or sometimes intentional act which resulted in a not so desired consequence. Who hasn’t made a mistake? I make mistakes every now and then. Those mistakes are the result of learning, learning various aspects of life – friends, family, career, love, health and even about you. These mistakes often lead to guilt, dissatisfaction, anger and remorse.

“WHY DID I DO THIS? HOW COULD I DO THIS?” a person who has committed a mistake would ask oneself.

But, do those mistakes really tell what kind of person you are?  NO! They do not. A mistake will never ever define you as a person. No one is born perfect. Life does not come with a user manual. At every stage of life, you will face difficulties, dilemmas, clashes which will lead to mistakes. Unknowingly made mistakes; consciously made mistakes. Everyone makes one. The person who says otherwise is either lying or never came out of the shell he is living in. Therefore, you should never let a mistake get the better of you because you’re not alone in this. There are hundreds and thousands of human beings out there who have made a mistake similar to yours.

Then what defines you as a person?

The way you face and deal with your mistakes is what defines you as a person. Do you accept your mistakes and do the needful to correct them? Believe me when I say this, “You’re one brave person on this planet”. Owning up to the mistakes is not an easy task. Not everyone does it. But, yes, everyone is blessed with the option to do so. When you choose to accept and own up to your mistakes, the honesty sinks into you. You become more transparent and strong person. You will not fear anything and anyone.

I read somewhere some time ago which goes as, “You clean the mess you created by yourself”. Hurt someone’s feelings? Said things that you should not have said? Did something that troubled you and your loved ones? Did your act result in someone’s lose? Made a wrong career choice? Fell into a wrong company? Failed in love life? Accept the mistakes. Own up to those mistakes. Pluck up the courage to apologize. Make up with all those who were affected by your mistake. Take the corrective steps. Your one step towards correcting the mistake and all those problems and troubles will go miles away.

The mistakes so committed and the lessons learned from them will help you be the better version of yourself. Your life will be sorted which will create a healthy and positive environment. You will know yourself better. No complexity, just genuine simplicity. Be brave and strong to make a mistake and learn from the same.

So, keep making mistakes in life, as many as possible. Own up to those mistakes. Commit yourself to learn from mistakes and improve – becoming a better person every day.